Eternal Happiness

Not here to preach in some philosophical manner. Just want to clear this stupid misunderstandings that we all develop while being in any relationship making it friendship or love.  The single moronic moment when you start  thinking about what you are going to get in return to your sincere and oh-so-awesome friendship is the POINT where you lose it all. I used to believe that relationships should be based on give and take theory. If you give you have to get. But what I forgot was that relationship is not so damned bargain in a grocery shop. For screaming out loud , its a relationship. It does NOT work on give and take . it works on FORGIVE AND FORGET. Dont focus on what that person is doing for you because they will NEVER meet your expectations. Talking from my own experience I have been hurt billion of times because of this but than I realized If I can't love someone without expecting something in return than I am none better than a greedy pig blekh. Just be sincere because its in your nature to be sincere! Do it for your own self not for the other person! Let me explain what I mean by the title eternal happiness. First thing you ought to know is it depends on you. STOP focusing on how others treat you and start focusing on HOW YOU TREAT others. And for Merlin's damned crappy sake, STOP considering yourself to be this mistreated puppy who was abused by his owners or something. In this manner you will never mature and never grow up let alone achieving anything in life. Trust me considering yourself wronged makes a LOSER out of you. Forgive everyone for YOUR OWN sake, Knowing the fact that a hurt soul can never prosper . it deteriorates turning you into this really dark person who no one approaches. So the recipe to attain eternal happiness is to mix a little bit of bitter patience with some sugary smiles, taking out your sour hurt feelings and showing them to the one who hurt you. Explaining it all. Letting go of this awful disgusting attitude WHY SHOULD I ALWAYS TAKE THE FIRST STEP, (trust me it spoils everything, it spoils you as a person) and yes burry that pungent pride of yours six feet deep into the ground in a cute treasure chest. Take a deep breath and let it go ( Elsa style of course) . explain this to yourself that you are doing this for your own self not for any other person. You are doing good to your soul by acknowledging your mistakes first and making room to work on them. Not giving yourself enough space to grow and thinking that I am like this. Its my nature will make you rigid and you will stop growing spiritually result : you will turn into this self pitying spoiled brat. Anyways I started drifting from my matter of discussion. Coming back to topic, acquiring happiness and Felicity is not that difficult.

Step1 realize and acknowledge your faults

Step2 work on changing yourself for the better

Step 3 always confront others whether they hurt you or you hurt them BUT in a amicable environment with a friendly argument not that oh I am coming with a migrail and will kill you with my laser gun attitude

Step 4 MOST IMPORTANT ! DONT EVER PONDER on these stupid things

# why am I the one taking the first step

# Its all her / his fault why should I say sorry

# everyone thinks I am in wrong. No one says anything to him/ her. 

If you take first step you are a much much MUCH better human than the other. You have NO right to point other people faults if you know you had your share of faults as well. First work on improving yourself. When you have, than go for it. 

And its not your concerns what others say to him/ her ! If someone is pointing out your mistakes than that person is sincere to youuuuuu. That person is your friend. GO HUG HIM/HER. You are lucky. In the end , it all comes down to the way you think, the early you straighten your twisted self the better. Sigh ..